What are you learning to let go of?
- Michelle Del Valle
- Aug 21
- 3 min read
Episode Two with Kristen Wang
The heart of The Confession Book is simple: one question, asked with intention, followed wherever it takes us.
In this second episode, I’m joined by Kristen Wang, someone whose energy has pulled me into spaces of co-creation and connection that keep expanding me in unexpected and exciting ways. She was also the very first person I shared this idea with, in the creative space we’ve been experimenting in this season.
Kristen is truly a creative rebirth doula. She helps people, whether intentionally or simply by being herself, move through the flames of renewal. Instead of resisting transformation, she invites us to meet it with openness and curiosity, to discover what might exist on the other side.
And her life theme in Human Design? The Right Angle Cross of the Sleeping Phoenix. Are we even surprised?
We began, as always, with just one question: “What are you learning to let go of?”
From the Conversation
Kristen: I’m learning to let go of the idea that I have to be more and do more. Especially in the healing and wellness world, where everything says, “Do this, try that, buy this,” it’s easy to get caught in striving… even for healing. But the self I’m trying to become? That version already exists within me. It’s not about adding more, it’s about peeling back the layers that aren’t mine.
Michelle: Yes! And the paradox is that letting go can feel like the harder work, because it’s quiet. It’s internal. But when we stop adding and just listen, the clarity reveals itself. It’s not performative. It’s not about doing. It’s about tuning in.
Kristen: Exactly. In acupuncture, they don’t “add” anything, they remove the blockages so energy can move. That’s what healing can be. Not pushing toward something, but allowing what’s already within you to emerge.
Kristen: That metaphor of gardening comes to mind—the one where the gardener isn’t growing the plant. He’s removing what obstructs its natural growth. That’s us. And the moment we let go of what we think we want—what’s tied to validation or approval… what we truly want starts to surface.
After the Conversation
What is your greatest extravagance?Probably scents, candles, fragrances… really anything that smells amazing. Maybe it’s my Taurus moon, maybe it’s my incredibly sensitive sense of smell.
When I was a kid I once immediately threw up after putting on a change of a clothes from another person’s house because I couldn’t handle anything that didn’t smell like how I needed it to smell.
What do you most value in your friends?I value openness - in understanding, in perspective, in communication. I’m someone who loves going deep in conversations, so I really value when I can openly explore different concepts, ideas, perspectives with a friend without needing to be “right” or fearing I’ll be “wrong.”
What’s the last…
Song you listened to: Ong So Hung by The Guru Singh Experience.
I just love this version because it’s so beautiful and grounding.
Book you read: ACOTAR
Show you watched: White Lotus
Last Thoughts
Letting go isn’t always about effort or force. The process may even take some time and patience. It comes in waves. There’s no need to rush through it. It’s okay to stay in the “learning to let go” space until you feel truly ready. There is no right or wrong way.
It’s about getting quiet enough to notice.Not something else to do, but to allow. And unfold.
It’s not easy, especially in a culture that rewards doing more, being more.But often, the clearest insight comes when we stop trying to fix or add, and begin to listen: to your body, your inner knowing, whatever and wherever that truth is for you.
Thank you for being here.
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